A Relationship With Hatred

Posted on August 7, 2013 by dontdestroyrelationship

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Have you ever been on the receiving side of someone’s hatred?  It is a powerful force that demands your attention.  Hatred speaks louder than it can ever say because it is beyond disrespect.  It is beyond a mere dislike or differing of opinion.  It is a force that you can feel staring you straight in your eye.  Feeling hatred from another human being is not one you can shake off so easily, especially when you experience it at a time when you are most vulnerable. 

Hatred is defined by http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/hatred, as “the feeling of one who hates; intense dislike or extreme aversion or hostility”. 

“Intense dislike or extreme aversion or hostility”.  Hatred is not an instantaneous emotional action or response.  It has taken time to incite the feelings of dislike and has allowed itself to morph into the extremity of hostility towards its object. 

The brewing of hatred takes great thought, much energy and effort to materialize.  This means, while its object is laughing, living, loving and moving forward with life, the hatred incited for them in one person is being thought out, premeditated, contemplated, and given a lot of consideration and time.  Hatred is hoping and waiting for the day when its object is near, in which to execute its wrath.

Anyone who is hated by another person should understand that hatred lies in waiting.  It is not just an off handed thought or fly by night feeling.  Hatred works as a poison and holds internally to a boiling point, so when its object is within reach, it waits for a word that is spoken, any gesture or response, in order to justify its residence in the heart of the hater.  The smallest word, behavior or act sets it off into a scene of dramatic animation that its object is not only caught off guard, but is also left to wonder where did all of the accusations and false delusions come from, and how can one person hold so much inside of their heart, mind, and soul. 

Hatred holding residence in the heart of any one person corrupts the heart and prohibits the ability to genuinely love.

Hatred is a destroyer, and according to an article called, “Transforming the Three Poisons: Greed, Hatred, and Delusion” http://www.naljorprisondharmaservice.org/pdf/ThreePoisons.htm it says, “…our mind is neurotic, never calm, we are endlessly occupied with strategies of revenge”. 

This is a powerful thought.  Being “endlessly occupied” wears on the mind, the spirit, soul, and even on one’s physical well being; which may be why many people who have hatred in their heart mostly always end up with cancer, some sickness, and maybe even having a need to be under psychiatric care or counseling.  Hatred is so powerful of a force that even in the heart in which it dwells it is counterproductive to the hater’s physical well being.

It is best when you encounter someone who hates you to not even try to reason with them.  Just hold your position and watch them mindlessly rant and rave regarding their delusions or false accusations about you, because hate holds no ground for reason.  It is a pure, unadulterated emotion that holds no objectivity or rationale.  Defending yourself or trying to provide clarity is useless, because hatred has been waiting for the moment to have its time of confrontation with you.  You will also find that if you try to make peace, just for the sake of trying to create a resolve, your gesture will be rejected with a back handed unreasonable response as to why peace cannot be made.  Take note that the back handed response is pointed at you, because you are the object.  Try not to take this personally.

Hatred being worn by anyone, especially a person who claims to be a Christian or leader in the realm of Christianity is not only violating many laws and by laws of the Bible they claim to live by; but it is the opposite of everything they themselves claim God to be.  In this instance, this makes them a hypocrite, a liar and not to mention a deceiver as it takes practice to construct a lie and delusions.  It takes practice to build hatred in your heart.  It is a premeditated act that clearly shows the hater’s hell on earth.  And the place of hell in which they preach about is waiting for them when they close their eyes for the very last time.

The relationship with hatred is a fate worse than death.

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Family: The Exposure of a Broken Relationship

Posted on August 2, 2013 by dontdestroyrelationship

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We can often judge the strength of a family in times of crisis and death.  If that family can put its differences aside and move forward as a unit with one primary focus of nothing but the crisis or death at hand, then that family is one of togetherness and support.

If the family has friction, bouts of anger, and will not come together, it is clear that Love is so far from the relationship.  And where love should always be abounding, especially in a family that has deep rooted spiritual beliefs, somewhere the position of spirituality is flawed.  Somewhere we are talking the talk, but are inconsistent in the walk.

As family, there are going to be disagreements, because of the differences of opinion, belief systems, and maybe even the facts.  After all, you have individuals coming together trying to agree on one thing.  But the saying, “Let’s agree to disagree” should be the Mantra for the matter, because the only primary focus should be the crisis at hand.  This takes great individual maturity and intelligence.  Maturity, in knowing that a fight in the middle of a crisis, is more for selfishness and self centeredness, rather than the election of the need of the collective— which is for the greater good.  Intelligence, in knowing that anything outside of the whole collective is frivolous and serves no purpose. 

In these situations, it is not helpful to power play.  With so many personalities involved, the best thing to do is acknowledge the most skilled members, and bring them into the solution or the execution of the situation.  This is not to imply that any one is any less useful or less valuable, it is all about the situation at hand and bringing the very best of what the family has to bring to the table.  Everyone also agrees to bring their best self by handling all additional tasks, so all family members are working seamlessly together, in one collaborative effort.  This ensures the best reflection of the Family Name, which maintains its reputation, and the ties that bind will become stronger. 

When a family structure is broken, the crisis or death will only manifest what the real family issues are.  Unfortunately, the rest of the world is watching, and therefore the family’s business and its weaknesses are fully exposed.  The world watches, every step of the way, the unfolding of a family imploding. 

And whereas the family may move forward with its various dysfunctions— the tainted history, the pain and the stain of the facts become embedded in the family’s broken relationship. 

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