Bond With Me Baby!

Posted on July 23, 2013 by dontdestroyrelationship

I need to bond.  I am not in this relationship for some shallow interaction.  Let’s really take this to the depths of what a relationship is capable of.

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See, when we first met, it was by attraction.  There was a pull and we could not avoid each other.  It was there as if we were on an attraction parallel plane that exists beyond normalcy.

And whereas, this relationship may not be for the long haul or eternity, because nothing is promised: nor can we forecast how long we will last, but Baby, while we are here, right now?  Bond with me.  Right now is really all we have.

I am vulnerable to you.  I am willing to take the risk of vulnerability, because my heart has been tested and tried before you came along.  I have learned how to be vulnerable, but not through ignorance or emotional dominance.  My fear factor is more removed from the levels where it once dwelled.  Navigating through vulnerability takes skill and know how, so I am willing to take the risk with you.   

When we have conversations, we are smart, insightful, witty, and where we found we have many commonalities, it is not only through our commonalities where we bonded— but also through our differences.  It is in our differences where we can really see each other’s brilliance, and through the differing perspectives we share, we take those perspectives as an opportunity to see a different view.  So, our differences are never our dividers, our differences are where our levels of respect are built.  Through this we found we could bond.

Historically, we took different routes to get to our historical awareness, but combined, we are able to see our surrounding life in the reality of what is.  Nevertheless, we move forward mentally bonded by the understanding of what we need to be to each other and what we need to do for each other.  We bond through historical awareness. 

Talking about anything without judgment, and with understanding is how we communicate.  We have an understanding of our past pain and our need to be supported now.  We have shared some of our most painful times, so in understanding our pain, we have entrusted each other and feel safe with each other, via empathy for the pain we have both encountered.

Our belief systems are similar:  spiritually, socially, economically and politically.  Individually we become stronger in our hearts, and our minds through continuous information building.  We continue to bond as we grow in knowledge and as we share the knowledge.  

Various primitive emotional levels we do not encounter in our relationship, like jealousy. There is nothing to be jealous of.  We are beautiful as man and as woman, so we complement each other and we affectionately compliment each other.  We do not live in fear of losing each other.  Regardless of where we go, or how far we may be away from each other, we are bonded on so many levels that the depth of that bond cannot be easily broken or penetrated.  Trust?  We trust each other with our hearts, because we both share our heart. 

Sexually together, we are an accumulation of the passion we feel in all our endeavors, along with the need and the craving to have each other.  We continually build our sexual knowledge.  And we do not fail to share that knowledge together under the sheets or where ever we feel the need to have each other.  We build our sexual stamina from many different aspects like; reading about it, eating the right foods, working out, talking about it, wanting to try many things, and the various sexual challenges we bring.  We realize in sexing each other, that what we had done before or the night before, was the past, and what we do now, is a builder to the next level of further sexual bonding and pleasure. 

And lastly, we do not fail to tell each other how we feel about each other.  Through eye contact we continually look into our souls, while building momentum off our synergy, and enjoying the power of our combined energy.  Energy is never eradicated it is simply transferred.  So we take that energy and feed each other in a way that an intimate bond could never really be broken.  We are fully present in every moment we share, never to be taken for granted, and never to be in that same moment again.  It makes us want more moments together, because every moment we work to make it better than the last. 

Bond with me Baby!

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The Relationship: How Do I Love Myself?

Posted on July 20, 2013 by dontdestroyrelationship

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I often hear the question, “How does a person love him/herself”?

We are not really taught how to do this. (I don’t recall anyone explaining to me how to love myself.  I had to learn at a most difficult time in my life— divorce.)

We cannot just sit down and say the words, “I love myself. I love me. I love myself.”  No.  It is much harder when it comes to self, because our soul will not allow us to lie to ourselves.  So we must put work in to it.  This is fine, because in building self love, it takes a variety of self building blocks to come to the place of loving one self.  There is a chain of work to develop this.

Loving begins by knowing about self and taking on the journey of self work (our strengths, what we are good at, our values, likes, dislikes, and the good in us, our habits and areas of weaknesses)

Knowing develops understanding of self (why we are, what made us this way, reasons for our responses, behaviors, and belief systems, why we think the way we do and where it all got started)

Understanding builds appreciation (thankful for living, how we have arrived to where we are, grateful for our victories, achievements and accomplishments, this is organically coupled with self satisfaction)

Appreciation builds like (we like the process we have undertaken, we are working on self, feeling good about what we are doing, we like where we are emotionally, mentally, like our positive results, because of what we are doing, where we are going, we are really starting to like ourselves)

Like builds love (the relationship of “self like” morphs into self affection, we love how we are growing, the more we explore ourselves the more good we uncover, we love how we treat others, how we feel inside, how this process makes us feel, and we are loving where we are heading)

Love builds respect (we are proud of what we have done so far; we respect the self building process, and the new found self love relationship, we are self connecting, and more in touch with our feelings, self begins to intensify, causing us to become sensitized to anything that may disturb our self value system: we are respecting our feelings, forgiving of the mistakes we have made, while increasing our growing intuition— even our aura reflects these inner thoughts)

Respect builds fortitude (we are building mental and emotional resistance levels due to our self work: we are now able to resist old and weak behaviors and unproductive thoughts we were exposed to before, making necessary changes around us, and continually overcoming those weaknesses)

Fortitude builds strength (the more we resist the old ways of thought and remain on course to self building, our resistance of not being swayed builds strength, and it takes strength to do critical self work)

Strength builds courage (this comes by insistence of taking a stand for self, and strength to incorporate and uphold the self beliefs we have incorporated: we know we are right because of our results, and we are not afraid to take ownership for our actions).

Courage builds persistence (we are moving forward on the right path, because each step of accomplishment builds stamina for more: it feels great and self is moving along with momentum).

Persistence builds determination (with strength, resistance and courage backing us there is nothing we can’t do: nothing can stop us now and we do not want to stop the growing relationship with self, and we want this to last— so we press forward)

Determination keeps us determined with purpose to reach each objective, one goal at a time. You are building character, you are “inner-self” accomplished. You are self accredited.

At the core of all of this is character.  Character becomes stronger, and when we incorporate new information, we will continually build our value system.  Other inner traits like self confidence and self esteem becomes stronger with the package of self work.  Character continually fine tunes itself by the analytic self study of our morals, ethics and belief systems.

The study of one’s behavior through every experience builds wisdom. Wisdom takes time for critical observation and deeper levels of understanding. Not only of oneself, but of others.  Wisdom multiplies through knowledge, and knowledge builds intelligence. Intelligence is a wholistic development of a person.  We will find the more we know, the more we will discover there is so much more to learn.

We will encounter many challenging situations, but in loving oneself, we will navigate successfully, regardless, because the inner confidence and strength we have worked so hard for will keep bringing us the best of what we deem life to bring to us.

There is a saying “To know the universe is to know thyself”.

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