Negativity Elimination

Any time someone lands on my blog by typing a search request— I always take notice.  A person could be doing research, but something tells me this search was a cry for help. If there is anything I can write to help, I will.

The search request was: “I feel so much negative energy.  I do not want it.”

(*tears*)

I have provided strategies on how to avoid negativity, but this request demands more of an elimination of negativity versus thwarting it.  This person is consumed by the energies of negativity.

The power of negativity is just as powerful as positivity, and easier to attract.

With so much going on in the world, and the negative people in our lives: There is negativity on the train, the job, and our families.  It is very easy to get caught up in the energy and cycle of the negative.

Take a look at your relationship. Most likely it is bringing pain, hurt, cynicism, resentment and judgment to your life.  If your emotional and self investment is causing you much pain, you must consider how much more are you willing to pay for your pain.

Borrow the DVD from a library or buy “The Secret”.  It is life changing. Watch it again and again until you absorb as much as you can.

Change your way of thinking. It will be a force, (not hard) but you can do it.  Whenever you have a negative thought, think of a solution to resolve it. Do not run from it or avoid it.  Deal with it head on, and use your best skill to solve it. Everyone has a talent or something they are good at.  Use your best skill to attack the problem, and when you do, take the time to acknowledge your accomplishment.

Begin loving yourself by reading, “In The Meantime” by Iyanla Vanzant.  It takes you on the journey of self love.

Know that you are not alone. No one ever is.

Borrow from the library, “177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class” by Steven Siebold, or buy it.  Read a passage everyday.

Become keenly aware of the negativity in your life. Clean house. Clean out. Purge. Toss!

Clean your physical house. Give it a face lift. The home is your core.  You need it clear and free just to think.

“Fear is only an illusion”.  The only thing to fear is fear itself.  “40% of what you worry about will never happen; 30% of what you worry about or fear are things that happened in the past and can’t be changed; 10% of what we worry about are considered by most to be insignificant issues; 12% of what we worry about are issues about our health that will not happen. This means that 92% of what we fear or worry about will never take place.”  http://www.fearofstuff.com/featured/fears-amazing-statistics/

Recognize negativity when it is coming at you.  Repel it with a logical positive thought. Do not engage. Walk away. You are trying to remove negativity.  Do not participate in conversations where folk are complaining, whining, and gossiping.  “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

Watch as little news as possible. It puts fear in the hearts of people. Unless you can watch it with a filter of understanding, know that someone will always talk about the news. You can be informed, but you do not have to be consumed by it.

Mind over matter is real. I have seen folk healed of cancer. I have seen a mother lift a car off her child. Research miracles in the lives of others!  If folk can overcome death and disease, you can overcome negativity!  http://miraclestories.com/category/healingmiraclesstories/

The mind is powerful. Become acquainted with yours. Program it to consider options to every situation.  Train it to mentally pursue options. It will reward you again and again.

Trust in the Spiritual powers. Whatever your belief system is, begin to believe again.

Adopt gratitude. Be thankful for every morning you wake up.  Expect something good to happen to you.  Look for it. Goodness comes in the oddest ways: finding a dollar on the street: someone smiles at you while saying hello: or someone gives you a piece of candy or a hug.  Look for goodness. Take it a day at a time. 

Whenever you receive goodness, always pay it forward. You must always give back to the cycle of plenty in order to live a life free of scarcity.

Learn a little more about “Fear”, read about channeling “Stress”, and incorporate positive energy by reading the article “Passion”.

May you enjoy your life by removing all the negativity from your life!

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You Need a Fire! (Part 1)

Does it feel as though you and your partner are room mates?  It does not matter if you live together or not, do you lack that closeness and intimacy?  Have you not sexed each other or kissed for weeks?  Okay…months???  What!!!  Are you guys the “Couple Ho-Hum”?  Hell no!!!!  Tell me it isn’t so!!!!

Honestly?  No intimacy?  No relationship.  It is just that simple.

You need a fire!  Let’s start off with a little heat, first. 

Most of us would never really go hard, and just grab our partner and act as though we have not seen a man or woman for years!  That type of sexual starvation would have us mindless and driving us without any fears or inhibitions!  Hey!  May I suggest you go for that?  Nothing is better than just taking your partner and sexing her/him as if you are by yourself and your partner is the victim!  Whew!  Is it hot in here or just me!

Bring back the intimacy by eyeing and touching your partner whenever and however you can.  Not groping, but touching in a way that is alluring and sexy.  For example, when sitting on the couch together, you can sit at opposite ends and have a conversation, while your eyes are slowly eating up your partner as you gaze at her/him from head to toe.  Or sit close and put your arm around them while reading or watching television. 

Clean the kitchen together and use that time to get closer like rubbing up slightly against them (be sexy about this — do not bump your partner!) while going into a cabinet.  Or if you need to move him/her, take them by the waist, say “excuse me.” Let your touch speak for you.

The bathroom should never be off quarters to a couple, just because one of you is in there.  That is the time to touch and kiss the back of his/her neck, find a place to sit, while someone is on the toilet, or hop in the shower with them— even if you get out before they do.  You are creating moments of touching and establishing closeness.

When your partner is reading, lean over, just close enough, as if you are flirting with your presence.  Ask about the book.  Look them in the eye as they explain it to you.  Take the book, lay your head on their lap and bring them in close for a kiss. 

Ask him/her if they want to have a cocktail with you, or offer to make their favorite beverage. 

Greet your partner at the door with a kiss, and their favorite dessert.

Go to sleep holding each other. 

Find opportunities that create a moment of intimacy everyday.  Have fun with this.  You can only win in doing so.  Being sexy does not have its moments.  Sexy is everyday!  Do not cheat yourself of this fantastic characteristic by being shy and uncertain.  When you are uncertain, you are not sexy.  Sexiness is confidence.  That confidence comes with your self growth, sexual knowledge, technique and style of who you are, and your work  results in your being sexy.  This is where the sexual aura comes from.

Bring back the kiss.  It is something extremely sexy and intimate about a great kiss.  Only 10% of the human population do not engage in a kiss.  If you are kissing your partner, regularly, you cannot lose that fire!  “Our lips and tongues are packed with nerve endings, which help intensify all those dizzying sensations of being in love when we press our mouths to someone else’s. Experiencing such feelings doesn’t usually make us think too hard about why we kiss – instead, it drives us to find ways to do it more often.”   http://scienceline.org/2006/10/ask-fiore-kiss/

You are building your sensual profile, while rekindling your relationship, and incorporating ways of being sexy.  Do something intimate everyday and you will find that sexiness will become a part of who you are. 

The goal is to establish the intimacy to having regular sexcapades with your partner! 

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