Quality of Life – Quality of Love

Your quality of life impacts your quality of love.

How are we living? Are we thriving, striving and making decisions that move our lives on an upward swing to progression? Or are we barely doing it, barely making it; and waiting for something good to happen. Hoping for better times, rather than finding ways to make times better?

No wonder we are not happy in our relationships. We are not living the quality of life we deserve. Yes, we deserve!

We are caught up like a hamster in a cage, running in place on a wheel to the point that even our sub consciousness is bored with our consciousness. We continue with this mentality, creating a ho hum drum of the mill relationship.

Your quality of life impacts your quality of love.

We lack appreciation. We lack passion! We lack chutzpah. We lack vision. We lack the energy and the urgency to drive and navigate our lives!

We are just settling to be whatever; and to do whatever. We are doing just enough to get by on the job. Just enough to get through the day in our family business. Just enough to make a dollar. And we wonder why we are not reaping in abundance. We wonder why we are always broke! Our mindsets are set to the bare minimum!

Change your course! Yes, you can! You have too much at stake not to.

Every day you wake up; you have one more chance to create change. You wake up to a new day, one you have never seen before. In the course of one year you wake up 365 times. This means you have 365 chances to make the change for you! The change you want. The change you can have!

Stop being held hostage! If you have a job you do not like— look for another! Work hard, do your thing, and search for something you want. Or if you want to build something for you— work hard, stack your cash and work on your goals after work to build for yourself.

If you are a believer in the saying, “You make your bed, you lie in it.” You had better quit! First try changing the covers and the sheets. If that does not bring the change you need, throw the whole damn bed away!

I heard a statement on the series, Bones, where an intern said, “The difference between a try and triumph is the umph! “ Have you seen the DVD called the “Secret?” The power lies in your mind to do whatever you want, while generating the Laws of Attraction to work for you and draw everything you need for you, to do you!

Your quality of life impacts your quality of love.

We are miserable because we choose to be. We are boring because we opt to be. We are dead men walking, because we will not choose life. We are sick because we won’t seek the cure. We are unmotivated because we stopped believing. We have replaced appreciation for entitlement. We go to church and still need saving!

We compete with those who are for us. Resist those that love us. Question those who support us. Blame others when there is no one to blame but us.

We fight over the inconsequential because we lack the potential, to create the bigger battles to fight.

Your quality of life impacts your quality of love.

Choose from this day forward to live life in the same spirit you use in the game, “Truth or Dare.” Choose the dare— always. You can read about the truth. What most folk think is truth is not “fact” any way. Seek the facts for yourself. Always take the dare simply to program yourself to learn to take a risk.

Risk? We do it every day. We risk leaving the house and being shot down or hit by a vehicle. We risk sitting in the house, to be shot while sitting in the living room. We risk going to work every day— not knowing that the senior management staff could very well be in talks of massive layoffs. We risk sending our children away from our arms and corrals of safety. These risks come with living.

Take risks, open your heart and love! Give Life, be Life and do Life in every dynamic and every dimension of your life. Stop rationing what you do. Go forward! Full speed ahead. Go hard in everything you do! Live these 365 days as you never have before!

What you do in your life that improves or decays the quality of life for you, impacts your relationship. You will most likely either provide the decay for the destruction, or you will provide the growth for betterment in your relationship.

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Fantasy to Fruition

The idea of couples sexually fantasizing, aside from each other, have experts talking about whether it is healthy or not.  Some experts say fantasizing is healthy.  http://www.alternet.org/story/140363/%22weird%22_sex_fantasies,_and_why_they’re_good_for_you. Others say it is destructive to your relationship.  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201003/sexual-fantasy-the-more-you-scratch-the-more-you-itch.

Fantasy is defined as, “Imagination, especially when extravagant and unrestrained.  The forming of mental images, especially wondrous or strange fancies; imaginative conceptualizing.”  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/fantasy

The idea of your partner having sexual fantasies could make you feel he/she is cheating on you.  Sexing someone else in a fantasy, unless it is you— and only you— you feel is cheating, even if it is in their mind.  You feel you should be the only sexual object in the mind of your partner.

We all know the reason we fantasize is to compensate for the lack of sex and because we are having, “ho hum yarn” sex.  The same reason we masturbate.  It is possible to theorize that our minds are at work, from the right side (creative side) of the brain to create an alternate sexual solution, because our needs are not being met or are scarcely satisfied.

We should view this as an alternative to remaining physically faithful.  Remember we are most likely fantasizing because we are coming up short in the sex department.  Most of us have fantasies.  Let’s not be judgmental and critical of our partner, when we too have sexual fantasies outside of our relationship.  That is hypocritical.

The reason we rarely fantasize about our partner, when we are deprived, is because our partner is the object of the deprivation and limitation.  There is nothing sexy about that.  So fantasizing about our depriving partner would be the last object we would fantasize about.

We really need to step up our sex game. Being sexy, having sex, and being creatively sexy is the way to be in a relationship. If you are the one holding back the sex, what is the problem? Give it up! Why are you in the relationship if you are not handling every dynamic of your part in the relationship? You can’t be angry if your partner is fantasizing about the woman next door when the pussy he has in the bed is handcuffed. It is too late to be shy. Too late to have hang ups now. You are in the relationship, do what you did in the beginning. Start again. Make it a threesome in your relationship: you, your partner, and sex!

The mind is a very interesting and mysterious place.  Consider our dreams.  When we have dreams where we are beating up someone, the mind could be telling us we are not dealing with a situation in our conscious life, causing us frustration, and leaving our minds to work it out in our dreams.

When we have suffered a traumatic event, our brain takes us into a state of amnesia; protecting us from an extreme shock, where we have no way of measuring the debilitating climatic repercussions— if we were not being mentally protected.

It is difficult to refute that the mind is actually creating and taking the initiative to work out unconsciously what we are not sexually handling consciously by creating fantasies, in which we are sexually acting out, in an alternate reality (if you will) our desires in which we are not working out in our reality. Another fantastic possibility to consider is our minds are actually being the creator of sexual imagination!  We could perceive that our mind is the inspiration to bringing more fun and satisfaction into our bedroom.  Who can say it is not?

Work that angle to the max!  Continue to allow your mind to flow and create— you just engage, take advantage, and ignite in bringing more spontaneity, more sex and fun into your sexual relationship with your partner.  Whatever you both agree on, get it on!

Let’s get specific on the objects of our fantasy.  Being creative, in spite of sexual deprivation is one thing.  Who we fantasize about and why is another.

The object of the fantasy could be someone you have known intimately or someone you see at a distance.  The fantasy in this case may not be about that person specifically, it could simply serve to inspire your sexual creativity.  Use this to work in your sexual favor.  Do it!  Get busy in doing the busy with your partner!

Are we fantasizing about someone else, because we are devaluing the someone we have?  Should we encounter a situation where our partner is the fantasy of another, how would we truly feel?

Either way, the fantasy boils down to you.  Your sexual mind is screaming for you to be more imaginative in bed.  Stop being boring!  Even your mind is crying out to you, through picturesque sexual acts!

Take fantasy and rather than engage in some alternate reality that does nothing but keep you from the reality of what could be, take that fantasy and work it into your sex life.  Bring the fantasy into fruition.

Remove your inhibitions!  Inhibitions are the prohibitions of your sexual progression!  Your mind is taking you to sexual places; because it is evident you are being sexually limited.  Step out, stretch out and whip it out on your partner.  Dive into your mind’s creation and bring that fantasy into your world!

Bring your fantasy into fruition!

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