“Your” Power of Perspective: From My Heart to Yours

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Okay, we cannot rule the world. Someone else has that role.  We don’t have power to change the world, at least not as one individual anyway.  Power doesn’t run in our families where our money can shake the earth.

But there are powers we have that we don’t use.  It resides in the recesses of our mind.

The power of perspective!

How we see life is within our own power.  How we use that power determines how strong we are and whether we thrive or barely survive.  It determines if we cave into the problems of life by thinking we have no choice and no options.

There is a line in the movie, “Eli” (played by Denzel Washington) who was in a threatening life or death situation, and the odds were against him.  He was told he had no other choice but to concede to the situation and give up the book.  Eli (Denzel) said, “Oh, I always have a choice.”  Very powerful statement.

We always do.  We can choose to take the beat downs of life and what others dish or dictate to us, or we can use our Power of Perspective to create the choices and options of what we can and want to do.

Changing perspective in your relationship determines its direction.  A shift of one focus or something you do or say differently can change the dynamics of your relationship and flip it to an upside position.  You have that power!  Work it!!!

This saying is taken for granted, yet there is merit to it.  Do you see “the glass half empty or half full”?

Harnessing your power of perspective happens when you take on the power— and use it always.  Make it a way of life.  You have so many powers and gifts you fail to use, because they are clouded in your problems, to the point you become lost in yourself.

Seeing things with a powerful perspective takes thought, not emotion.  No. You cannot fly away on a kite of emotions and harness your power at the same time.  You must stabilize and rationalize in order to harness your power and use it.

When I see someone flying off the handle, I already know he/she is relinquishing their power and investing in the nothingness of emotions.  Emotions are for feeling not thinking!  They are not centered on power or solutions.

It is said there are no jobs. Are you sure about that?  Just because you hear something bad doesn’t mean it is bad for you.  There are jobs being posted everyday.  Yes, everyday. Can’t find the job that fits your skill set?  Change it.  Revise it and add other skills to your realm of expertise.  Don’t want to work for a company? Work for yourself!  What can you do that can make money for you? Write down some options and write down ideas of what would work to make those options happen!

Staying in one place is where we remain in a comfort zone.  It is time out for comfort.  It is time to make things happen!  Can’t do it? That is bull and you know it!

Power of perspective does not denounce reality, it only makes small adjustments to it. Information is regulated, and delivered on the perspective of the person delivering the information. All statistics are not correct.  Sometimes there are important demographics not included in order to support the message.

When we hear information, we don’t just accept without giving it some thought, research and reason.  We must check out the validity and yes, the reality of that information.

Katt Williams is awesome!  In one of his performances he said, “Come on white people, and get on the bus with us.  We have always been in a recession, but we just didn’t have a name for it.  Come on and join us!”  We have always found a way, and made a way— together!

Your power is activated by thinking about the possibilities.  Your power is activated in knowing you don’t have to take most of the blows life is giving you.  What are your choices? There is always one.  Can’t think of one?  You aren’t thinking enough.  Take the question to bed. It may come in your dreams.  Take it with you in the car you may see a sign on a license plate, bill board, or hear the answer in a still small voice.

Always think of options.  There is power in creating them.

I called a dear friend to see how he was doing.  He said “I don’t know. I am just doing.”  I gave him my power of perspective on that.  “That is so much better than dead,” I said.  He could not refute that.  In truth, there is much worse, in “…just doing.”  Then I asked him what was happening to make him feel that way.

Challenge your brain to think of answers to problems. Then it will be programmed to do it naturally.  What would you do to end world hunger?  What would you do, one step at a time, to end homelessness?  Think about it.  Solutions lie right within you!  How can you generate an additional $200 a month, from an entrepreneurial angle to your monthly income?

The secret to more power, is not to destroy others for it, but to give some away.  It will always rejuvenate to generate more power.  Knowledge and a different perspective in life and about life, is power within itself.

Use your power!

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Does Unconditional Love Have Conditions? Yes!

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Unconditional love means, “To love without conditions or limitations“. http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/unconditional.  “Not limited by conditions“, http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/unconditional

Many of us talk about such a love, but what we do not give much consideration to, is the person on the receiving end of someone who has unconditional love, should not willfully provide horrible, even impossible “loving” conditions.  For example, you should not punch love in the eye and push the limits of unconditional love to stay within continual opposing and hostile conditions.

Take a look at God.  Believers attest to the infinite love of God.  It is unconditional.  (Stay with me here.)  God loves you and will abide with you until the end, but if you put yourself in a sinful condition, then God will leave you.   

This is a condition. Live free from sin, and God will abide. Choose to live the life of sin and God must depart. You have created conditions in which God cannot dwell. He still loves you unconditionally, but He just cannot abide with you. 

Although… is this what we define as unconditional love? It is not unconditional, if it leaves— regardless of what condition.  Right?

In truth, even the unconditional have conditions.  With everything there are conditions.  The root word of unconditional contains condition.  How can something be totally free from something, yet contain some form of what it is to be free from? 

This means that in some form of unconditional, it cannot truly exist without conditions.  If this theory is correct, then is there anything “unconditional”?  Okay, besides a true Mother’s love.

Why are there marriage licenses?  To legally bind two people who have proclaimed their love in the presence of God, an authorized official who can marry two people in matrimony, along with two or more witnesses.

No one says marriage vows are unconditional, but they are.  Any solemn promise that goes to the end of life is indeed unconditional.  Making a promise up to the moment of death is unconditional.

The vows are a binding verbal agreement (verbal contract) of how we will govern ourselves in marriage.  They are verbal expectations, regardless of the horrible conditions like: in sickness and health, denying all others, etc, and until death do us part.  Regardless of how bad the conditions in the marriage may be, the word of those two partners is unconditional.

The success of marriage is contingent on keeping the vows.  Breaking the vows uproot the unconditional promises of the marriage.

I would argue that many of us have unconditionally loved, at least once, in our lives.  It could have been that first love; or that very special someone that had your heart, to the point, where it didn’t matter what he/she did, you were taken away with your love. When that person took you through long enough, and caused you great pain, it took you a long time to get over it.

It is through the pain, the backlash of a past love’s residue, and the experience of a broken heart from our unconditional love, that we learn we MUST create conditions.

We must create a boundary of how much of our love to measure out to someone new in our lives, in order to have some sort of emotional security and inner control. For we have learned, from the unconditional lesson that when we are investing in the equation of love, we need assurance that the object of our love will provide the same type of emotional investment, at the very least.

We live, for the most part in a civilized society.  When we enter a relationship, after having the experience of loving unconditionally, we bring with us internal conditions by which we have lived or experienced— good or bad.  We learn eventually that without conditions there are no measurements. Without measurements there is nothing to be truly governed by, and there is nothing to guide others by on the journey of love.

Finally, unconditional love is mostly always met by conditional love. The turbulence of this equation will cause the unconditional one to require better conditions.  This is why a person who has unconditional love, and one who has conditional love, are rarely successful in a relationship together.  The focus is lost in the unconditional loving partner trying to continually tolerate unloving conditions, until that toleration becomes intolerable.

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