The Relationship Destroyers

Oftentimes you limit your creativity. Your ability to thrive, move to higher echelons in life, being happy and becoming the absolute very best you can be. Every time you allow stress in your life, your creativity is depleted.

Creativity works in so many areas of life: your gift, talent, inspiration, business, design, entrepreneurship, ownership, comedy, art, voice, personality, acting, selling, spirituality, preaching, and teaching, generating clients, keeping clients, and launching a new business. Lastly but not least, even down to your partner. Creativity is critical in finding interesting dynamics and various ways to entertain, love, and amuse your partner, right down to the bedroom.

Stress works on so many levels. It can be harmless when urgency is required to meeting a deadline. Or it can escalate, causing some people to shut down and go into a state of depression. Stress can cause sickness, making it difficult to determine whether it is due to stress alone, exposure to a germ or both!

Channeling stress is a way to harness its power. Being driven by logic and reasoning, versus emotion leaves no room for stress. When you are concentrating on the climatic results of a situation, you block your ability to visualize the options that will materialize the results of what you want. Channeling your stress will develop solutions, rather than you being rendered helpless in the throes of stress.

Oftentimes, you forecast destruction before the conclusion of a situation. When destruction happens, it is due to self fulfilled prophesy, and you not doing anything to change the conclusion. You are settling for the worst rather than working to create the best result.

Before getting carried away in a situation, step back. You do not have to respond to anything quickly. Give yourself a minute. Even in an emergency situation, you really do not make the decision to fight or to flee. Did you know that? Your amygdala makes that decision for you. The brain goes into emergency mode, which is why a mother can lift a car off of her child. Or you can tackle your attacker. YOU become the response system; your amygdala moves YOU into action.

Now that the emergency, life threatening situations are covered, everything else you can handle.

Even in a confrontation with your partner, a very slow response is in order. Both of your emotions are riding too high anyway. It is frustrating, when you are trying to be logical and your partner is emotional, and has said something to purposely offend you. In this case, it is best to just ride your point, repeat if necessary, and do not move any further into that discussion. You will find when you repeat the same thing, over and over, keeping the conversation from moving forward, your partner is not processing what you are saying. They just want to be heard. Repetition is the key to keeping the confrontation from escalating. It is a useful tactic to keep you from being emotional; rather than you yelling with your partner on issues not relevant to the problem, and saying hurtful things to apologize for later. Engaging in useless conversation is stressful. Do not engage.

I was a fan of the sitcom called, “Charmed.” The episode called, “Primrose Empath” is about Prue, who unknowingly, helps a demon with empathic powers. Due to the overload of feeling every emotion from miles away (literally), the demon was a shut in for 7 years. When Prue touched the demon, to set him free of those powers, he transferred his empathic powers to her. This resulted in Prue on the edge of death, because now she had the ability to feel the emotions of half the city of San Francisco.

The sisters sought out a priest, a former Empath, who said these words to Prue, “You were given a power you were never meant to bear. But you are resisting the power, and this is wrong. You have the opportunity to feel everything there is to being human— the good and the bad. Do not be afraid. Rather than resist what you feel, embrace it, and channel what you feel into your powers.”

That advice is applicable here.

You have the power to create (a solution), power to think (through the situation, to make a decision), power to analyze (the pros and cons of the issue and forecast the results) and the power of channeling (taking the urgency of stress, making it a driver in the execution of the action for resolve). There is always a choice and a solution within you. Stop reacting all the time! Just think!

Life as a human being consists of situations that will present challenges. Challenges are part of the course. Stress is the course YOU have chosen! This did not come with life’s package. If you believe that it did, you grabbed the wrong package. We barely use 10% of our brain. Rather than take on stress, embrace the challenge, and consider it an opportunity to gain more experience that will expand your knowledge base each time you create a solution.

When you channel stress, you are working stress, rather than stress working you.

Be confident that when you live a certain way in respecting the laws of the Universe, have the best of intentions, treat people as good as you treat yourself, you will always generate good Karma. You will also connect with the laws of the Universe to work in your favor and work everything out for you. Use your powers to work a solution, and should you encounter a situation, despite all of your efforts, the outcome is not what you want, trust the Universe to handle the rest— and it always does, every time.

Channel the stress and boost your creativity.